31 Days of Self-Esteem – Day 23 – Expectation

I often quote my father, because…well…he had a few parts of the world all figured out.

Here’s something he used to say about expectation:

Become aware of the expectation embedded in your psyche that keeps blindsiding you.

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Since yesterday we talked about blindsiding, I thought this would be a nice segue into today.

What does that mean? Expectation embedded in your psyche?

We have talked about energy and it’s flow and how energy follows thought. Expectation is a thought about the future.

Purely by our expectation about something, we are inviting it into our reality by energy flow or more specifically, Law of Attraction.

This is great when you are expecting great things. Not so much when you are expecting not-so-good things.

And it can play havoc with our self-esteem if we don’t recognize the cycle.

Expectation that is up-front and in-your-face is hard enough to manage. But, given that 95% of our thoughts are subconscious, we may have to dig a bit to even find them.

Today we are looking specifically at expectation of self.

It can look like ‘I suck at that’, which pretty blatantly becomes self-fulfilling. Or it can look like ‘somebody told me once that my behavior gives them grey hair so when someone is upset, it must be my fault’. The second seems so unlikely that we wouldn’t even acknowledge it…if it came into our conscious thought. But, of course we aren’t talking about the conscious mind right now.

What do we do about thoughts that run under the radar?

We look for them where they are…manifesting in our world…in our ‘here we go again’ scenarios. These are the times when we are standing on the precipice of a situation or experience that we can already see the outcome before we take the first step. Expectation is the only way we can see the end before the beginning. Usually when we do, we aren’t viewing a desired outcome. Nor are we viewing the reality of our range of possibilities.

The key? Pause. In that moment where we can see the end and our foot is hovering over the threshold, pause. Take a breath. And ask. Where is that vision coming from? Is it true? Why is it true? Just keep asking questions until that expectation comes to light. Then you can put it where it belongs.

If we barrel head-long into a situation where we already expect an outcome, then we will unknowingly reconnect with that past outcome…even when there are a bevy of possibly outcomes available to us. Thereby reinforcing the cycle.

Reality is that every situation…every step across a threshold is a new opportunity. A slate wiped clear of all past events. In that moment, it is just us and infinite creation. Why drag a past we don’t want into a future of pure potential?